Are you gay?
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PeachFreak
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I haven't actually come out of the closet yet, but I know my parents suspect I'm homosexual, which I do consider myself, if I had to chose a label. Though, it's probably my fault. Especially when he asked me if the female Spanish exchange students were cute. I replied with a swift, "I don't know." So, he asked about the boys jokingly...and I decide to blush and had to hide my face in a pillow.
Maybe I should just come out already. My parents are just really crazy religious about these sort of things.
Maybe I should just come out already. My parents are just really crazy religious about these sort of things.
"Like my daddy always says, give me a good neuromuscular poison any day."
I know how you feel, PeachFreak. I came out to my mum and grandma about a year ago. My mum says that I'm too young to know my sexuality. Go figure. 
I don't know when I'm going to officially come out. I'm in a similar position. I think they suspect but, are in sort of denial.
Besides, I have enough problems as it is already. I think getting those sorted out first would be for the best.
I don't know when I'm going to officially come out. I'm in a similar position. I think they suspect but, are in sort of denial.
Besides, I have enough problems as it is already. I think getting those sorted out first would be for the best.
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MissScarletDidntDoIt
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alwaysPeacock
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I don't know what answer I gave earlier in this thread, and I'm too lazy to go looking for it (even if it is near the front; I don't know). I sorta started my "coming out" process today. I had a chat with an old teacher who is very into gay rights and other sexuality issues. She was a big help. Then I had a chat with my best friend. I'm honestly not sure what her reaction was. We dated for seven months, but split when we both thought I was leaving for school last year. When that didn't happen, we remained good friends. But I'm not sure how she feels about the whole thing. Her Facebook status is a joke about God's sense of humor, and I'm pretty sure it's somehow related to our chat earlier.
But it's not so easy to say I'm straight/gay/bi. I love people, a lot. My friends are as diverse as people could possibly be (they're theatre people, it's expected). Before my last girlfriend, I didn't want to date. I wanted to be single and "enjoy myself." Around that time was when I started thinking about my sexuality, but it never really bothered me. Then we started dating and everything was great, except I knew, deep down inside myself, that it wasn't quite what I wanted. When she came to me one night and said that when I was ready to have sex, she was, I knew we couldn't last much longer. I would hate to have taken something so precious from her without really wanting it. So, I guess it was a few months later, we broke up. We're still great friends; she's my best friend, actually.
Now I've had this year between high school and college. That's a lot of time to just let you mind wander where it wants to. And recently I started journaling again. I had kept journals at different times in my life, and looking back it's usually at times when my life wasn't going where I wanted it to go. And recently I had found myself attracted to a male friend of mine. He's a great kid, and yeah, easy on the eyes, but he's straight. I knew there was no point in keeping those feelings, so I dumped them into my journal. I wrote some crazy stuff; stupid, even! All about how awful it was to feel the way I did. Then one night, my journaling compelled me to pick up my phone, get on Facebook, and send a message to my former teacher about what was going through my head these days. As soon as I sent the message (and I almost didn't), I felt better. The next day, I got her reply. After reading her response and messaging back that I would go see her at the school, I felt lighter. I can't think of any other way to describe it. It was the first time in a while that I had really felt happy about where I was. I decided then that I would go see her, talk to her, and then talk to my friend.
And I feel great! I'm not sure yet how I'm going to tell my parents. I honestly don't think it's that big of a deal, but still, it's not the kind of thing you just spring on someone out of nowhere (kind of like I did to my friend...hmm...). And I'm not doing any crazy stuff spreading the word around to my friends. Again, I don't think it's anything I need to "announce" to everybody! If it happens to come up in a conversation, then I'll take advantage of the moment (again, my friends are theatre people, conversations about sex and sexuality happen often!).
I said earlier that it's not easy to classify myself as straight/gay/bi. That's because I'm still not entirely sure. Gender doesn't really matter to me. If someone is a good person, cares about me, and I care about him/her, then that's what matters. But there's a part of me that wants the attention of men. Like I said, I was attracted to a friend of mine, I know a good-looking person when I see one! I guess it's something I'll explore in college. Single, gay, living & learning in Manhattan =
So, there's my ramblings for this thread.
But it's not so easy to say I'm straight/gay/bi. I love people, a lot. My friends are as diverse as people could possibly be (they're theatre people, it's expected). Before my last girlfriend, I didn't want to date. I wanted to be single and "enjoy myself." Around that time was when I started thinking about my sexuality, but it never really bothered me. Then we started dating and everything was great, except I knew, deep down inside myself, that it wasn't quite what I wanted. When she came to me one night and said that when I was ready to have sex, she was, I knew we couldn't last much longer. I would hate to have taken something so precious from her without really wanting it. So, I guess it was a few months later, we broke up. We're still great friends; she's my best friend, actually.
Now I've had this year between high school and college. That's a lot of time to just let you mind wander where it wants to. And recently I started journaling again. I had kept journals at different times in my life, and looking back it's usually at times when my life wasn't going where I wanted it to go. And recently I had found myself attracted to a male friend of mine. He's a great kid, and yeah, easy on the eyes, but he's straight. I knew there was no point in keeping those feelings, so I dumped them into my journal. I wrote some crazy stuff; stupid, even! All about how awful it was to feel the way I did. Then one night, my journaling compelled me to pick up my phone, get on Facebook, and send a message to my former teacher about what was going through my head these days. As soon as I sent the message (and I almost didn't), I felt better. The next day, I got her reply. After reading her response and messaging back that I would go see her at the school, I felt lighter. I can't think of any other way to describe it. It was the first time in a while that I had really felt happy about where I was. I decided then that I would go see her, talk to her, and then talk to my friend.
And I feel great! I'm not sure yet how I'm going to tell my parents. I honestly don't think it's that big of a deal, but still, it's not the kind of thing you just spring on someone out of nowhere (kind of like I did to my friend...hmm...). And I'm not doing any crazy stuff spreading the word around to my friends. Again, I don't think it's anything I need to "announce" to everybody! If it happens to come up in a conversation, then I'll take advantage of the moment (again, my friends are theatre people, conversations about sex and sexuality happen often!).
I said earlier that it's not easy to classify myself as straight/gay/bi. That's because I'm still not entirely sure. Gender doesn't really matter to me. If someone is a good person, cares about me, and I care about him/her, then that's what matters. But there's a part of me that wants the attention of men. Like I said, I was attracted to a friend of mine, I know a good-looking person when I see one! I guess it's something I'll explore in college. Single, gay, living & learning in Manhattan =
So, there's my ramblings for this thread.
"But look what happened to the cook!"
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cacums
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Talking about half the family knowing, my mom, cousins, and brother are the only ones who know...Adam106 wrote:I know how you feel, PeachFreak. I came out to my mum and grandma about a year ago. My mum says that I'm too young to know my sexuality. Go figure.
I don't know when I'm going to officially come out. I'm in a similar position. I think they suspect but, are in sort of denial.
Besides, I have enough problems as it is already. I think getting those sorted out first would be for the best.
Yeah, fathers are always the hardest to come out to.cacums wrote:Talking about half the family knowing, my mom, cousins, and brother are the only ones who know...Adam106 wrote:I know how you feel, PeachFreak. I came out to my mum and grandma about a year ago. My mum says that I'm too young to know my sexuality. Go figure.
I don't know when I'm going to officially come out. I'm in a similar position. I think they suspect but, are in sort of denial.
Besides, I have enough problems as it is already. I think getting those sorted out first would be for the best.
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Niteshade007
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